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Don Steese

My daughter was distraught today because Kennedy hadn't returned her calls or texts. Finally Kens calls and says, "sorry mom, I met a few friends already and we've  been having so much fun I forgot to call!" Exactly what we all needed to hear!!  Her sister Reagan is still missing her terribly though. 

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erik meade
On 8/16/2019 at 2:23 PM, gaberdeen said:

My wife and I dropped our 18 yr old daughter off to college on Wednesday. She has been calling every evening homesick. I know it’s going to take a few weeks to get adjusted and this is pretty normal but as a parent it makes me want to do something to ease her discomfort. She probably gets it from me as I was always a big homebody when I was young. Still am today, I am not a good “alone person”. I need someone around or I get lonely pretty easily. Guess there goes my plans for living as a hermit in the Maine woods when I retire. I guess what I’m saying is I don’t know who is having a harder time, me or her.

How is it going?

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Tim Frazier

I probably went overboard in three areas raising my 3 girls.  One was being independent and making your own luck, second was the importance of "each other" and that when all else fails you in the world being a "sister" will always be there for you, and third and most importantly, your faith travels with you and lack of a physical structure is no reason to forget you are not alone.

 

So last year my youngest probably had a little tougher time at college than we really knew.  Her sisters would have told us if it was too bad...maybe, but even though her grades were great I was a little worried.  For the second summer in a row she worked in the Adirondacks, where my oldest is an accountant, and had a great summer.  Now  she is back in college and I can't get her to even visit! (she promises she will see us this weekend though)  She has been involved with CRU ministries, coaching dance a couple nights a week, and making crochet pumpkins in her spare time...and hopefully classes!   So it appears she might actually be too busy to run home much but I am thrilled for her.

 

I am a strong proponent that you raise a teenager starting at age 2 and I'm beginning to believe the same about 20 somethings.  Give it your all and let them take it from there.

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steveziv

I saw freshman year as a great adventure and enjoyed it immensely.  So when the time came I wanted that for my kids.

(Though here in MD you can save a bunch of money taking your requirements at the local CC before transferring)

 

I've dropped off two at college.  They were excited and there were no anxiety problems that I know of.  Of course college was a half hour away so it was easy to stay in touch and visit there or home.  I missed my youngest daughter a lot those first few weeks since we were extra tight and spent a lot of time together.

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gaberdeen
1 hour ago, erik meade said:

How is it going?

Fears unfounded I’m happy to say. She has adjusted well and loves being at school. She has only come once to visit. Now she says “ see you at Thanksgiving”. Thank you for asking Erik.

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WPG Gizmo

Glad to hear that we raise kids that are more resilient then we think all they need is chance to shine 👍

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oldbird

I dropped my oldest boy off years ago. He had a bad case of senioritis but when I dropped him off for his freshman year he looked like a deer in headlights. I laughed so hard. His mom got a little pissed at me but I knew he would be fine. The hard part was getting him to leave. Five years later he was having a little too much fun. He’s got a great job now and is doing fine. Sometimes ya just gotta shove em out of the nest and let em fly on their own. 

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Peent

I “dropped my kid off” at Fort Benning several years ago.  I forgot where I was going with this. 

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WPG Gizmo

The 26 year old kid left this morning for a few days with his long term GF he has been living at home now since he graduated from college year's ago.  Would it be wrong if I changed the locks while they are gone.

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Lurch

after the first few days of tears, my wife has flipped a switch and we've been having the time of our lives the first 5 weeks as empty nesters.

The youngest came home last weekend and after about 2 hours she whispered "when is he leaving again?"...

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